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1in6 Thursday: Speaking Truth To Shame
"…I guess, start at the beginning…"That’s how the recently-premiered Bristlecone video starts, and what a moving and powerful 90 minutes the presentation was. The Bristlecone Project celebrates the...
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A CALL TO MEN National Conference: Advancing Sports Culture to Prevent...
Thursday, 10 September 2015 to Friday, 11 September 2015Program EventsCharlotte, NCFrom September 10 – 11, more than 400 people from across the country gathered for A CALL TO MEN’s national conference:...
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1in6 Thursday: Pope Francis - Courage and Accountability
The weeks leading up to Pope Francis’s arrival in the U.S. have been filled with anticipation about the pronouncements and positions of a man many see as a radical reformer of the Catholic Church. For...
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1in6 Thursday: We Are Survivors
Early in my healing process, I read an online article. I’ve long forgotten the title and the author; however, one statement went something like this: there is nothing wrong with us; something wrong was...
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1in6 Thursday: Logging On to Healing - A New Resource for Men Who Experienced...
I received an email from a long-time 1in6 staff person this past Tuesday that simply said: 'It is truly a remarkable accomplishment we've achieved this evening.'They were correct on a couple of fronts,...
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1in6 Thursday: Approval Seeking
It is possible that seeking approval is the single most common, and possibly the most painful addiction ever created by mankind. It can be more devastating than heroin, more addictive than cocaine and...
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1in6 Thursday: Be Kind
At the end of emails to good friends, I sometimes add these words: "Be kind to [name] today." Occasionally I'll add, "[Name] is someone I like very much and deserves the kindness."Not everyone responds...
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1in6 Thursday: Shame: It’s a Dead-End Street
It’s been nearly 30 years, but I still remember saying the words that I’ve heard from so many others: "the shame isn’t mine, it’s his."I can’t help but feel sometimes that everything negative leads...
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1in6 Thursday: We’re all in This Together
It should come as no surprise, I suppose, that we who work to create a safe space for men who have experienced sexual abuse and assault feel a great debt of gratitude to the many courageous men who...
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1in6 Thursday: Is It Worth the Fight?
I fought as a teenager on a daily basis to survive in an abusive home. I fought to survive the onslaughts of sexual, physical, emotional and spiritual abuse I would endure for most of my teen years. In...
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1in6 Thursday: Hope for the Holidays
Hope for the HolidaysI’m not sure of the source or when I first leaned the phrase, but this holiday season I find myself most grateful for the understanding that “healing is a process, not an event.”...
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1in6 Thursday: Victim/Survivor vs. Survivor/Thriver
We are told not to use the word victim. Nobody wants to identify with being victimized. The words that are preferred are survivor and thriver, or warrior for those who are out leading the movement on...
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1in6 Thursday: Becoming a Village
There’s power in numbers. Last weekend, in a gallery in New York City, I saw that power come to life in a remarkable exhibition of The Bristlecone Project, a collection of photographic portraits of men...
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1in6 Thursday: Doing It Alone
"Two people listened when I told them. They didn't condemn or belittle me.""What helped you the most in your healing?" a radio host asked me. "Two people listened when I told them," I said without...
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1in6 Thursday: Present for the Holidays
In the holiday season, there are lots of chances to relearn the healing power of giving, even when we’re feeling our own fears and unmet needs rise to the surface. But I’m reminded of the airline...
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The revelation this week about decades of unaddressed sexual abuse and assault at a New England school offers some important reminders about the power of community. The voices of more than 40 men and...
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1in6 Thursday: 46 Years in the Making
On Monday November 2, 2015 I completed my book Healing the Man Within. A friend of mine asked me how long it took me to write the book. “Forty-six-years,” I told him. “It has been forty-six-years in...
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1in6 Thursday: A Humbling Journey
Supporting Men Who Have Experienced Sexual AbuseEach January I have the good fortune and great honor to celebrate the anniversary of two organizations that I had a hand in founding (coincidentally,...
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1in6 Thursday: Sexual Abuse and Healing - It Happens to Boys
A PR person cold-called me a few months ago, offering to help me get grants to continue the work we do, and asked me to describe what it was. I proceeded to tell him the scope of our program - offering...
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1in6 Thursday: Standing in the Spotlight Without Shame
I sat in a theater in New York’s Times Square recently, soaking in every nuance of the film Spotlight. I already intimately knew the story of the Boston Globe’s Spotlight team’s investigation of the...
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