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1in6 Thursday: Partners in Healing
My wife, Shonna Milliken Humphrey, has been an intimate witness to my struggle with the legacy of my childhood sexual abuse, and a primary agent of my healing. In turn, I have seen the pain,...
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1in6 Thursday: Sexual Abuse of Men - Bringing the Issue to Times Square
Two Mondays ago, I was sitting in a car on a side street in Times Square. It was surreal.Nine years ago, we launched the non-profit you know as 1in6 to support men who had unwanted or abusive sexual...
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1in6 Thursday: The Many Faces of Resilience
In my 15 years as a child-protection social worker, what ultimately impressed me even more than the unimaginable trauma and loss I became privy to, was the remarkable survival instinct that enabled the...
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1in6 Thursday: Start by Believing
Last week, I attended the annual conference of End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI) whose signature awareness campaign, “Start By Believing,” aims to validate those who have experienced...
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1in6 Thursday: My Take on Forgiveness
What if I told you I believe I have the key to true happiness and freedom from resentments and anger towards the person who abused you? Then what if I told you that you held the key to that freedom and...
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1in6 Thursday: What About Prevention?
Intervention or prevention—it’s complicated.Hang around a prevention specialist long enough and you’ll hear a story. There’s one about the frustration of repeatedly rescuing drowning people who keep...
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1in6 Thursday: Triggers
When I began to cope with my childhood molestation, the word trigger was a new concept for me. As I learned, triggers can be internal or external, but they’re reminders of unresolved emotional issues....
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From 1in6: Tailoring Services for Men
When I tell people that one of my areas of interest in research is the use of social services by males, I often get strange looks. While many people have thought of researchers looking at the use of...
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From 1in6: 1BlueString and The Power of Partnerships
My job title is always changing to keep up with our growth in knowledge around male engagement. The job itself and the challenges remain consistent: engage men around conversations about sexual...
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1in6 Thursday: Why I’ve Started Keeping Running Shoes By the Door
I am a marathoner. It takes more than just training. It takes commitment, mental preparation, and a well-arranged screen-to-couch set up. I could watch the same television show for hours on end....
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1in6 Thursday: Many Thanks
As the Creative Projects Manager at 1in6, I wear a lot of hats. I manage our 1BlueString and Bristlecone Project awareness campaigns, maintain our social media, and coordinate special projects. A...
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1in6 Thursday: Resources to Address Sexual Victimization of Males on a...
I work on a college campus full of faculty and professional staff, most of whom actively want to do good for our survivors of sexual violence on campus. However, we live in a society that perpetuates...
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Yes, Old Dogs Can Learn New Tricks
I work on a college campus full of faculty and professional staff, most of whom actively want to do good for our survivors of sexual violence on campus. However, we live in a society that perpetuates...
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1in6 Thursday: Hope Wins
An ancient lesson about overcoming fearI was reminded recently of an important lesson about trauma recovery. The teacher was the son of a friend, a young man who spoke at his bar mitzvah about the...
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If I Told...
For the past ten years I have spoken openly and publically about my emotional, physical, spiritual, and sexual abuse, something I only did in the past in the way of justifying my behavior. I would tell...
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1in6 Thursday: The Forest For The Trees: Bristlecone Reflections
I don’t normally associate hotels with great works of art. Yet there I was, standing quietly, intently staring at a tree in the makeshift gallery on the mezzanine of the Washington DC Hilton. Black...
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1in6 Thursday: An Old Photograph Around My Neck
I found an old photograph recently. It’s a flimsy, bent Polaroid print of myself as a child. I’m sitting at the dining room table, closed-mouth smiling, clutching a stuffed, cross-eyed, bucktoothed...
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No More Silence: It’s Never Too Late to Start Healing
This video started with a conversation. Anthony Newcastle and I and our colleague Gordon Glenbar were discussing how to reach out and offer support to Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander men who have...
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Fill in the Blank
Earlier this year, Parul Sehgal wrote an essay examining “compulsory survivorship”—the tendency to label everyone who has had an abusive or unwanted sexual experience as a survivor. This is usually...
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Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation
In my experience, one path to true happiness and freedom is forgiveness, which is why I love writing about it. I grew up hearing, “Randy you just have to forgive, forget and move on.” These words only...
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